Are Your First Impressions Helping or Hurting You?

We’ve all heard the phrase, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” And while it might sound cliché, it’s true—those first few moments can either open doors or quietly close them. Whether it’s your first day at a new job, meeting a potential mentor, or connecting at a networking event, how you show up shapes the narrative others create about you. And here’s the thing—making a great first impression isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being intentional.

Walking into any professional situation without doing your homework is like showing up to an exam without studying. It’s not enough to “wing it” and hope for the best. Preparation is your secret weapon, and it speaks volumes about your reliability and professionalism. If you’re meeting someone for the first time—whether it’s a hiring manager, a senior executive, or a potential client—take a few minutes to do your research. Look up their background, recent accomplishments, and any mutual connections or interests you may share. If it’s a client, understanding their latest projects, industry trends, or company goals can give you an edge in the conversation. A well-placed comment like, “I saw your team recently launched a new initiative—how has the response been?” not only shows that you’re informed but also that you care enough to prepare. These small efforts help you stand out and position yourself as someone who takes their interactions seriously.

First impressions aren’t just about what you say—they’re about how you carry yourself. Your body language is doing a lot of the talking before you even get a chance to speak. A genuine smile, good posture, and steady eye contact can instantly communicate confidence, approachability, and professionalism. On the other hand, slouched shoulders, fidgeting, or avoiding eye contact can unintentionally send signals of insecurity or disinterest. People pick up on these nonverbal cues faster than you think, and they often leave a more lasting impression than your words. So, before you walk into that meeting or networking event, take a second to check in with yourself. Are you standing tall? Are you open and engaged, or closed off and distracted? These small tweaks can make a world of difference in how you’re perceived.

What you say matters, but how you listen can leave an even bigger impact. One of the most underrated yet powerful tools you can bring to any professional setting is the ability to genuinely listen. People remember how you made them feel, and nothing feels better than being heard. Instead of focusing on what you’ll say next, practice being fully present. Ask thoughtful questions like, “What inspired you to pursue this career?” or “What’s one piece of advice you wish you had known when you were in my position?” Not only does this show genuine interest, but it also helps you build stronger, more authentic connections. Avoid interrupting, even if you’re excited to chime in, and take the time to paraphrase or reflect on what they’ve shared to show you’re engaged. Being an active listener sets you apart from the crowd and creates a sense of trust that’s hard to ignore.

And here’s the thing—first impressions don’t stop when the conversation ends. Following up thoughtfully can leave an even stronger impression than the initial interaction. A quick thank-you email or LinkedIn message that references something specific from your conversation shows that you were attentive and appreciative of their time. Saying something like, “I really enjoyed our conversation about [specific topic], and I’m excited to explore your recommendation further,” reinforces your interest and professionalism. Following up isn’t just about being polite—it’s about keeping the momentum going and turning a great first impression into a lasting connection.

So, when was the last time you walked into a first meeting feeling fully prepared and confident? Did you leave the conversation feeling like you made the impact you wanted, or did you walk away thinking you could have done more? The way you answer those questions can reveal a lot about how intentional you are with your first impressions. If you’re realizing that there’s room for improvement, the good news is that it’s never too late to change your approach. Start small—prepare for your next interaction by doing your homework, focusing on your presence, and prioritizing active listening. These steps may seem simple, but they add up to create a powerful personal brand that speaks for itself.

If you’re ready to take your professional presence to the next level and make stronger first impressions, let’s talk. Click here to share your situation or schedule a coaching call. And for even more strategies on navigating your career with confidence, get your copy of Career Gymnastics by Cari Hawthorne.